In Matthew 22:36 the question is given to Christ: “Which is the greatest commandment in the law?” And, of course, as we all know, our Lord’s response was to “love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind.” And while there is a potential for several books to be written on the subject of the first and greatest commandment, we often spend less time considering the meaning of the second greatest. In Matthew 22:39 Christ gives us the second greatest of all the commandments “Love thy neighbor as thyself.”
The world says that to indulge your own desires is to love yourself. God says to love yourself, you must give yourself what you truly need, even if what you need is the very absence of what you want (Matt. 16:24-26).